Saving a nearly broken marriage: is the divorce inevitable?

Do you feel like your spouse is contributing as much to the marriage as an old broken down car? The first couple years of marriage are usually relatively painless, but as time goes on, the couple starts to get back into their normal routines and eventually they stop meeting each other's "Ultimate Expectations". Along with that "little voice inside your head".

You know that one.

It's the one that says, "Why should I have dinner ready when he comes home, and what has HE done for ME lately? He comes home, flips on the idiot box for hours and that's it... no precious moments like we used to share!"

...or...

"Why can't she just leave me alone for a couple of hours? I just want to come home and just relax after dayjob! But all she wants to do is talk, talk and talk. I need some peace and quiet from time to time!" Why? Simply because they didn't realize they were meeting them in the first place! The downward spiral that leads to divorce begins when one spouse becomes more discontent than the other At some point in most marital relationships one or both partners question whether they made the right choice in a partner or not. In many cases the stress is high in the relationship and an individual or both partners begin to feel that the best option is to end their relationship and get a divorce. Below are some suggestions to help you survive the initial pains:

1) Be kind and show empathy toward your spouse. If they don´t reciprocate show more love.
2) Listen to each other. Seriously try understanding your partner´s pains and trials.
3) Don´t criticize your spouse. Criticism will ruin a marriage. Recognize that your spouse won´t be perfect.
4) Search within yourself and remember the deep feelings of love you once had for your spouse.
5) Take responsibility and stop doing the things you do that bothers or hurts your spouse.
6) Find ways to serve your spouse even if you don´t want to. In serving your spouse you might rekindle some of the feelings you felt for each other while you were dating or earlier in your marriage.
Marriage problems can be devastatingly painful and difficult to overcome. Knowing that you may be losing the person you love is hard on anyone. However, if there is a chance you can do something to save that relationship, then you should do whatever you can. You might feel powerless to improve the situation, but you must try. If you make no attempt to save your relationship, it will eventually end. Fortunately, there's a chance to amend the mistakes and path the way to your spouse's heart again. More than 90% of broken marriages could have been saved if partners knew what to do and how. There's no mystery in this. You can do it, too, if you wish. If you have hope, keep on reading.

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